We’ve been in financial debt for months now, and recently had to move out of the home my parents lost to the bank when they finally caught up and gave a final date to move a few weeks ago. Life’s been hard. We can’t live together any longer because we didn’t save enough money for a down deposit to an apartment and my parents have a newly built trailer in a Senior Park and the age minimum is 55. I’m living with my brother and his wife until my baby is born any day now, and my fiance moved with our dog back to his aunt’s house. They share a three bedroom house that has her and her husband, 4 sons (somedays the two grandsons), and now my fiance living there. Space is SUPER tight. My fiance and his oldest cousin (with the two boys occasionally) share space in the garage in a tiny room, and the rest are crammed inside in the bedrooms. Our dog, Freebee is a one year old American Staff Mix and was used to being indoors 75% of the time when we lived in the previous house my parent’s lost. I have all the paperwork on him from our adoption from the ASPCA, and it specifically states how they are wonderful family pets and need daily exercise and do better indoors, and if outdoors, require space, like a lawn.
Well… his aunt and uncle are anti-pets (the exception of birds), and their sons actually enjoy them. I’ve told them how appreciative I am that they are helping us, and I really feel this way. But my question on here is because though I may show them this appreciation on the outside, on the inside I’m heartbroken for Freebee and tend to think VERY negatively and angrily towards them. I feel like it’s immature, but I can’t seem to grasp why people can be so heartless to animals. My whole life I was raised in a family that loves pets, and recently lost my 13 year old female dog to breast cancer in January this year- a loss that broke my heart the hardest in all my life. She was my best friend and more than just a dog. She would share my bed at night since I was 10 years old, I cared for her, loved her, and treated her like a member of the family. I feel the same for Freebee, but more as a son with fur :)
Unfortunately, they think it’s dirty to touch him, and feel the need to inform their sons to scrub their hands anytime this happens. The aunt and uncle refuse to touch him or even acknowledge him, have put an absolute ban on the dog going indoors EVER, and they first required Freebee to be tied to a poll 24/7 outside on the side of the house with a LEASH until he chewed threw it and got free. Thankfully the uncle came forward and him and my fiance built a pen for Freebee that’s nearly 7x7ft. that he is locked in all day and night unless my fiance takes him out for a walk or to play briefly. This encagement has made Freebee learn to cry early in the morning’s, whining for someone to pay attention to him, and now he’s started chewing the wood door (my thoughts are because he wants freedom like he had with us before).
My fiance is very uptight about letting him wander more than 5 ft from the pen if he’s tending to his water/food or cleaning the poop up, because he says it’s not his house and he doesn’t pay rent. He gets mad at me for "not understanding this" (though I do), but I can’t help but feel irritated that Freebee no longer can be the dog we used to have around. I feel such pressure to get a place of our own ASAP, because I’m so fed up with how he must live if my fiance stays there. I can’t seem to grasp how people can’t careless about pets…
I know, this may sound immature of me, and I may just be speaking from raging pregnancy hormones since I’m due any day now, but I had to vent somewhere, and since my fiance doesn’t understand my feelings for our pup, I have no where else to turn. I want to be able to control my feelings towards his aunt and uncle and how they view pets, because I’ve never been in a situation with any of my pets before that concern people who are so anti-pets and it’s breaking my heart seeing Freebee caged up all day long and night and hearing him cry from the street before I see him. My fiance feels terrible, too, but has the responsibility of controlling Freebee and tries to justify how his family feels with the fact that they are helping him and we need to respect their house. I have no problem with his, but my internal feelings give me such negative views on his aunt and uncle, and I want to know how I can surpress those feelings.
Catkeypurr & Kaponers: Screw you anyhow. Not only did I state he’s like son to me- obviously he means so much to me, but you are quick to judge. I did the research. He’s NOT a pitbull. Do yourself a favor and check your resources as well. As for get a job- tell that to my future baby. I’m trying to get a job from home so I can be there for it growing up! Don’t tell me how to parent. And getting a place of our own- what the f*ck do you think we’re trying to do!? That’s why we are separate- we are putting away money to come back together. My brother did it as well before he got married- it’s the price you pay when you aren’t financially indowed! And the reasons I have a dog and child during financial burden is of NO concern to you. It relates to NOTHING in my question, and only plays a key role as information to help readers understand how I feel about my dog. I guess you missed the part where I concluded I AM grateful that they help us. Instead of being a b*tch learn understanding first

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